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What You Really, Really Want

At least not exactly when you think you should exactly the way you think you should. Sometimes it takes more time. Sometimes it looks different than you thought it would.

I seem to be full of songs today. Also full of rants. This is one.

There's this idea that gets thrown around in various forms a lot. Too much. I saw a version of it go by online again today. It goes something like, "If you really want to do something you'll find a way. If you don't find a way, you must not really want it or it's not really important to you."

This is garbage. It's all lies. I suspect that the idea was first put out there by someone trying to sell their very special system for helping you get what you really want.

The thing is, there's so much more to following your dreams and doing the things you really want to do than just putting your mind to it. Willpower and organization won't get around depression, anxiety, other mental health issues. They won't get around health issues--your own or those of loved ones and people you take care of. There's a lot of stuff that can get in the way of your dreams. None of that means you don't really want it, it isn't really your passion (or one of them), or that it wasn't meant to be or you're not cut out for it.

If you have a dream, if you want to create, hold onto it. Don't listen to the people telling you any of this junk about you not doing enough, being enough, wanting it enough. You are enough. Your dream is enough. Go do it your way!


12 thoughts on “What You Really, Really Want

    1. Kim

      I agree! It really is cruel and just meant to make people feel bad for whatever reason. But it's so easy to buy into it!

  1. Christal

    There is a thing called "toxic positivity" and I detest it. If someone is trying to keep a roof over their head and food on the table, as much as they might want to create, they may not have the energy or funds to do so. It doesn't make them less than a creative than someone who has the means and time.

    1. Kim

      I agree! Sometimes you cannot do a painting or write 1,000 words a day or all those big things. And that's okay and doesn't mean you aren't really a writer/artist/creator/whatever. Sometimes you have to deal with life!

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